Caution: Politics Ahead

I don’t write about politics hardly ever. It’s divisive, it’s a sure way to piss people off and well, I don’t particularly like getting into a screaming match with people. I’m just not that confrontational.

But I’m going to jump in here. Before I do, I want to make a point that I will continue to make along the way which is, I don’t care what political background you have. You respect me, I respect you. My opposing views don’t make me some extremist, tin-foil-hat wearing crazy person. My views do not make me racist or any other words ending with “ist” that you would like to plug in. Ok. With that out of the way…..

Tracy sent me a link the other day from a Salon article titled “My best friend is a Republican” and it went into how the writer was horrified that her BFF was a card carrying member of the RNC, complete with guns and religion. I read the article and giggled, because Tracy is not what I what call a “left wing whacko” (remember, no name calling!) but she is left of me. In reading that Salon article, it did provoke some issues and how even though we are so far apart in some ideologies, on most bullet points, I bet we aren’t as far apart as she thinks we are.

I am a church going, Christ believing girl. Tracy and I were both raised Catholic. She is an atheist now and tolerates my posts about going to church because she respects me and my beliefs. Doesn’t mean she agrees, but she loves me and knows that’s important to me. I don’t try to convert her. I’m sure she appreciates that. I don’t mail her bibles or send her scripture verses, even though I have seen a few I would love to send her that I’ve seen at Hobby Lobby (Gasp! The horror!)

I believe in the Constitution and smaller government. I do not believe the government needs their greedy hands in every situation in our country. We need them for our military and infrastructure. Build the roads, bridges and dams. Keep the best military in the world and treat our soldiers with the best care and highest regard we can. There should be no VA scandal because it shouldn’t be so big that oversight is near impossible. Cut the bureaucracy and improve care. Simplify the tax code. It just shouldn’t be that hard. Flat tax? Sounds like a great plan to me. Close loopholes that businesses like GE (just as an example) use to pay ZERO taxes. Really? That’s ok?

Keep the government out of my and everyone else’s bedroom. Marry who you love. Gay or straight, makes no difference to me. If you love someone and want to commit to that person, marry away! Be entitled to all benefits and tax breaks that go along with it. What’s that joke? Why should only straight people be miserable? (Or something like that) But the flip side of that is also this, the government should have no right to order a private business to do something against how they want to run their business. Ordering a bakery to make a wedding cake isn’t the business of the government. Go to a different bakery. If you own a bar and want to allow smoking, it’s your business, the government shouldn’t tell you you can’t do it. The free market will take care whether your business is successful or not. Don’t like the bakery that won’t make gay wedding cakes? Guess what? Don’t go there if you don’t like it. Don’t want to work in the bar with smoking allowed? Guess what? Don’t get a job there! Don’t patronize that establishment. See? Easy peasy! I’m just saying the government should stay out of it. Live and let live.

Which then brings me to the taboo subject of abortion. Tracy and I have gone round and round and round AND ROUND on this. It’s a tortured subject. It’s a no win with us, so we usually avoid it entirely. I will throw this out there though, and it’s something that has bothered me for years. How can someone who claims to be a Christian (all the atheists are off the hook on this one) be in support of abortion? I know, the hate mail is going to fly in. But I don’t get it. Nancy Pelosi (shudder) is a perfect example of this. Practicing Catholic, believes in abortion. They are as polar opposite as can be. Are you deciding what to pick and choose from your religion? You get to make that call? The tenants of the faith are pretty cut and dried for you. Would you admit to Pope Francis that you believe in abortion? (And I’m not condemning anyone who has had one. So don’t even go there.) I’m just saying your faith and the liberal point of view do not reconcile to me unless you have decided that you are able to pick and choose pieces and parts of your Catholic faith. Which means your following your own version of Catholicism, right?

So do all of these things make me some right wing lunatic? To some far left people, I guess it will. I think I’m pretty moderate. I’m a registered Independent. Not a member of the RNC or DNC. I pick candidates based on what they stand for, not a letter behind their name indicating some party affiliation. And yes, I actually study the candidates. How many people just vote straight party line and then are shocked when things don’t change? (Hello Detroit? Chicago?) How about investing as much time looking into the actual character of someone and see how their values align with yours? Do you want the government IN or OUT of your personal life, telling you how to live, taxing everything you can put your hands on (rain, wind, air and water will probably be next)

So while I can’t use the title “My best friend is a liberal” similar to the Salon article, we have WAAAAAY more in common than most people would think. And I don’t even have my tin-foil hat on today.


Stay out of my life

I was going to blog about something else, but this is making the rounds today, so it’s a more timely post. There is a letter that a woman from ND wrote that she is planning to hand out on Trick or Treat night stating that she thinks the child at her door asking for candy is overweight and basically saying to be better parents. She goes to the “it take a village” mantra. Sigh……. 


This woman has decided to take it upon herself to be the fat police and decide who is worthy of a candy treat and who needs a diet plan. This causes me to curse LOUDLY in my head. Very bad words. I will try to keep them in my head and not in this blog posting. I’ll try to edit myself.

That being said, who the BLANK does she think she is??? (See?? Self edited! Aren’t you proud?) How dare she act as site judge and jury on a child. A child she doesn’t know. A child who is just going door to door on the one night a year it’s ok to go up to a strange house and ask for candy. 

Or maybe she does know the child who she hands one of her letters to. Kids on her block or in her area that she sees regularly and has decided she knows what’s best for that child.

Does she know if that child has a medical condition? Or that s/he uses food to cope with a bad home life? Or has recently lost weight and is still losing, but now has been handed a fat letter? How about a million other reasons that child might be considered overweight in her eyes?

The point is, she doesn’t know. She is making a snap judgement based on a 5 second observation between answering her door and hearing “Trick or Treat”. Hmmm, do I give this child candy from my bowl or a page from my stack of letters saying this child should be ashamed of his or her appearance? I think this one gets candy and this one, oh boy, does she need a letter. REALLY???? Again, who the BLANK does she think she is?

This kind of shaming can lead to so many other destructive behaviors. Eating disorders, drinking or drugs, cutting, etc. Internal noise like that can stay with a person for years, if not a lifetime.

And beyond this weight issue, don’t you think it’s time for others to stay out of your life period? We are bombarded daily with new intrusions that no one has the right to make decisions for. From the NSA spying on your website choices, to states deciding on gay marriage, to how far we drive (that bill is going to be decided soon and I will bet money it passes. It’s a new tax, so of course it will pass. Probably with tons of additional spending thrown in there for good measure. Is there any such thing as a clean bill anymore? Ok, I’m way off topic. Sorry.)

How about this, is it isn’t hurting someone else, stay the BLANK out of it! Stay out of my life, my house, my car, my children. They are MINE, not yours. I gladly share WAAAAY more than most people do, but guess what? I do it freely because I want to. But anyone policing my childs weight, how far I drive, how good my health insurance is (which ours is going up astronomically and it’s crazy stupid) and that I “have” to have what someone else has deemed acceptable for MY life, or monitor where I go on the internet or the contents of my email. 

I live a basically quiet, suburban life. Not perfect, not horrible. I think it’s pretty normal. But whether you live a normal life or you’re a crazy party guy, or a far out lunatic,  and everything in between, unless you are infringing on someone else’s life, no one should have the right to tell you what to do.

Do me a favor, you mind what you’re doing, and stay out of my life. 


Halloween Fat Letter